On page 34 of the 1996 book Oral Caress, and within a section that graphically illustrates the uniqueness of each woman's sexual anatomy, Dr. Birch writes:
"Verbal directions that change the focus of stimulation even a quarter of an inch can mean the difference between a fantastic orgasm and a sleepless night with an unresolved pelvic ache. Those who truly want to satisfy their women should forget all the 'how-to' books and abandon the ego trip of trying to come across as a 'sexpert' (sex expert). Forget all the preferences of previous women in your life and learn anew from your present partner. Find out what she has learned about her own uniqueness and closely follow her directions. If you give her the lead, she'll probably ask you back for more!"
On page 90, in a section titled "Don't Forget the Other Oral Sex," this sexologist advises:
"Talking about the wonderful sights, textures, tastes and aromas of your lover must be included in any oral sex adventure. Verbally, you can talk dirty about animal pleasures or, if preferred, speak delicately of a sensual spiritual moment. Non-verbally, it is great to moan with the pleasure of giving pleasure or to moan in harmony with the sounds of the appreciative receiver of your lingual gift."
In the 1997 book by Dr. Birch, entitled Male Sexual Endurance, Dr. Birch draws on 35 years of experience as a marital and sex therapist and writes:
"Sexuality without sensuality, touch void of passion and sex simply for
the sake of an orgasm follow a primitive hardwired program, but are hollow
human experiences. Emotional detachment, fear of intimacy, lack of knowledge,
and inability to communicate rob the sexual encounter of its richness. Before
beginning to work on mechanical sexual techniques, positions or endurance,
perfect your ability to touch your partner in an intimate way; with your hands,
with your words and with your heart." 
Communicating what you want or what you want to know during sex can be simple, fun and rewarding when using the valuable
training cycle demonstrated in this video. Instructors from the Welcomed Consensus demonstrate how to build better orgasm
using specific communication tools in the context of DOing – Deliberate Orgasm. You will see explicit scenes of Wendy's
body in a heightened state of orgasm, and the effect of RJ and Wendy's communication in building pleasurable sensation
over time.
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