Orgasm, Orgasm, Whose Got the Orgasm?
The problem
Surveys and clinical experience confirm that between 10 and 15 percent of all American women have never experienced orgasm and only around 30 to 35 percent of orgasmic women will orgasm during intercourse. Failure to orgasm at all or difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse has stirred much concern among women and among their partners, causing one, the other, or both to feel inept or dysfunctional.
The definition
An orgasm, of course, is the much sought-after conclusion to a period of high sexual arousal. During her excitement, a woman’s body packs blood into her vulva (clitoris, labia and tissue surrounding her vaginal opening). Physical tension builds (hypertonicity), as does the subjective experience of sexual arousal. If an orgasm occurs, the blood is released from the genital tissue and the woman senses a warm wave of intense pleasure in association with each strong contraction of her pelvic floor muscles. After an orgasm (or several orgasms if the woman is multiply-orgasmic) both mind and body relax, as the woman bathes in her quiet post-orgasmic after-glow.
The confusion
Many reasons for the failure of a woman to orgasm have been proposed: anger, ignorance, guilt, inhibition, and fear of losing control and letting go, to mention only a few. There are those who have pointed to hormones, to sexual abuse, or to clumsy men. There is confusion about vaginal verses clitoral orgasms, questions concerning G Spot stimulation and curiosity about the pelvic floor (Kegel) exercises. In a recent article in a health food journal, a woman who earned her Ph.D. in Communications has suggested that the reason women are not orgasmic is because of low desire, and then goes on to push what she calls the "sex vitamins and minerals." It is clear that people who claim expertise in vitamins should not write about sex, and those who specialize in sexuality should not write about vitamins! (And perhaps women who study communication should stick to writing about communicating.)
Resources
The most reliable resources are, of course, material written by professionals who have studied human sexuality. Two of the best books on the subject of female orgasm are those written by sexologists Lonnie Barbach, (FOR YOURSELF: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality, 1995) and by Julia Heiman, & Joseph LoPiccolo (BECOMING ORGASMIC: A Sexual Growth Program for Women, 1988.) The BECOMING ORGASMIC book can be found in our book list, and has a page of its own with a more detailed description.
We also invite you to go to our list of videos, and locate the video and DVD titled Becoming Orgasmic. This video (now also in DVD format)has been a favorite of sex therapists for years.
We think our book, PATHWAYS TO PLEASURE: A Woman’s Guide to Orgasm (2000), is a winner . . . Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., Certified Sexologist & Cynthia Lief Ruberg, M.S.Ed., Certified Sex Therapist
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QUESTIONNAIRE FOR FEMALE ORGASMIC CONCERNS
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will be offered. Email Dr. Birch for instructions on how to use this service. Remember, an interpretion and reaction to your responses is not the equivalent of a clinical assessment
in a face-to-face evaluation by a qualified sex therapist. The suggestions offered are not equivalent to advice based on
an indepth clinical interviews and diagnosis. However, the comments and suggestions should prove interesting and helpful.
Nina Hartley's Guide to Multiple Orgasms
The multiple orgasm isn’t as elusive as you might think. On this DVD, Sexpert Nina Hartley shows new and exciting ways to extend orgasms as long as possible and have more of them. Aria, Nicole Sheridan, Voodoo and Nina demonstrate various techniques that will take you to the peak of unknown pleasures – again, and again, and again.
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Live Orgasms in Concert CD
Orgasmic sounds from real couples synthesized with music. Idea for fantasy, a background for self-pleasuring, or for setting the mood for making love.
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Purely Natural CD, a mix of natural sounds exotically intertwined with REAL orgasms. The perfect background for a romantic evening, sensual massage or passionate love.
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